I believe that unforgiveness is one of the greatest invisible barriers stopping people from experiencing life as God intends it to be. Freedom will only come as we learn to forgive from the heart.
Unforgiveness binds you to the past. You will never be free unless you learn to be a forgiving person. In trying to help people to freedom, I have noticed that there are many myths about forgiveness that keep people from letting go of unforgiveness.
In this post I will bust twenty-four forgiveness myths. In the weeks to come we will look in depth at what the word of God says about forgiveness.
Open up your heart and receive the truths you are about to hear. It will change your life forever.
Forgiving is easy
But more often than not it is hard.
The good news is you can chose to forgive, even through the pain.
Forgiving gets easier
every time you do it
We can make forgiveness a lifestyle,
but that does not ease the pain we feel when wronged.
Forgiveness comes with time
Forgiveness is a choice.
Time will not cause forgiveness to just happen.
It is something that must be acknowledged and released through forgiveness.
Some things are too big to forgive
Jesus forgave those who hung Him on the cross and were mocking Him.
Once you forgive that is the end of it
There may be legal issues to deal with or boundaries that need to be set
Forgiveness is about the other person
Forgiveness is an issue of your heart between you and God.
Will you be a forgiving person?
reconciling with the offender
When we forgive, we release the person
from our anger, judgment, and thoughts of vengeance.
Reconciliation can only take place if the
person repents and seeks to restore the relationship.
Forgiving is ignoring what happened
In order to forgive, something that needs forgiving has to take place. Forgiveness is acknowledging the wrong
and then choosing to forgive the person from the heart.
be earned or deserved
We can forgive without the one who hurt us changing.
Forgiveness requires nothing from the person who hurt us
or we would be trapped by their unwillingness to change.
Forgiveness is free
Not a chance.
Forgiveness is costly.
It costs the one forgiving, but it is well worth the price.
Forgiveness is weakness
It takes incredible strength
and courage to be a forgiving person.
It also takes faith in God and His word.
Forgiveness means I will
downplay what has happened
We are never to downplay the wrong done against us.
We can fully acknowledge the pain we have suffered because of the wrong.
Forgiving means forgetting
You will always remember what has happened to you.
It will no longer hurt and cause pain.
When you forgive you choose not to bring
the event up again and use it against a person.
Forgiveness can only take
place if they ask for forgiveness
Your forgiveness is not dependent upon
any response from the one that hurt you.
Forgiveness is a choice to forgive as you have been forgiven.
Forgiveness means being a doormat
Forgiveness does not mean that we have to
allow the person to hurt us over and over again.
We can set boundaries and protect ourselves from those who hurt us.
When we forgive a person, we release them
from our judgment and desire for revenge but not from God’s.
Vengeance is the Lord’s. He will assure that justice is ultimately served.
Forgiveness requires me telling
the other person they are forgiven
It is an issue of your heart.
If the person repents and asks for forgiveness, we can give it.
The person I need to forgive
is dead or will not talk to me,
so I can't forgive them
Your forgiveness is not dependent
on the other person being near.
You do not have to have contact with a person to forgive them.
I must get over my
hurt feelings before I forgive
Forgiveness is not dependent upon being free from pain.
Many times healing comes as we forgive.
Forgiveness is not based upon our feelings, it is a choice of our will.
instantly heal my wounded heart
This happens much of the time, but not all of the time.
Sometimes healing take some time.
If I forgive, I will be
disloyal to those who were hurt
Forgiveness has to do with loyalty and faith in God.
Forgiveness does not mean you agree with what took place,
it is a response to the grace of God.
Forgiveness means I
am letting them off the hook
When we forgive we are turning that person
and the things they have done over to God.
We are trusting Him to bring justice to our situation.
I can’t forgive
Yes you can.
It is a choice of your will.
God will help you forgive.
Forgiveness isn’t fair
Certainly not from a human perspective.
God sees the big picture He will bring justice.
These twenty-four myths are just the tip of the iceberg. I look forward to studying the idea of forgiveness with over the next few weeks. May God bless you as you learn to be a forgiving person.
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